I'm sorry.... but I will never believe that casual sex is okay, healthy, emotionally or physically. No no no. I just don't think it should happen and I think that with the liberation of females the situation is only getting worse. But, luckily, AOL with match.com has this article titled "When Should You Do the Deed?" Ugh.... here are some highlights...
They Say:4. When you nearly die laughing
What is it about people who can get you giggling at the drop of a hat? Whatever it is, it gets some single people ready to head to bed. "If the guy can make me laugh hard, he's pretty much sealed the deal," says Michele, 43, from Akron, OH. "I don't care if it's date one or twenty-one but he has to have me laughing hard before I sleep with him. If I'm dating someone and the vibe has been so-so, if he all of a sudden has me on the floor laughing, it makes me see him in a whole new light. Being funny is sexy. It says you're confident, you can make fun of life, and you're probably imaginative in bed."
I say:Oh, well, now THERE is a good criteria. Well, let's see, so by now I'd have slept with my cousin Katy everytime we mention Mom falling off the chair, my cousins Brandan and Travis when we talk about, well, anything... and pretty much every one of my friends and probably a few mere acquaintances. Oh, and look... shockingly, Michele is single at 43!! Hope that works out for you, Michele!
They Say:7. When you feel your partner has earned it
In this fast-paced world, it can be easy to fast-track every aspect of a relationship, including sex. Maybe that's why some people choose a more slow-paced approach, holding off until they feel their date truly deserves it. "I like a long build-up to sex," says Helen, 44, of San Anselmo, CA. "Why rush it? A drawn out flirtation leads to more anticipation, which leads to really hot sex. If you do it right away, it's over shortly, and he may lose interest. If you wait, he'll feel like the luckiest guy in the world that he finally landed you." Helen's motto? Let your date wine and dine you. "Since you were so hard to obtain, he'll work harder at pleasing you. You don't want to be like every other woman who hopped into bed with him quickly. Be different, and you'll get treated like a princess."
I say:Thank you very much Helen, for this lesson on the advantages of playing mind games, a useful lesson for the young and the old. Of course, the only reason not to rush into sex is because the guy "may lose interest." My favorite portion of Helen's commentary was "You don't want to be like every other woman who hopped into bed with him quickly." However, while you don't want to be like all of those women, you DO want to find a man with a long resume of OTHER women who have hopped right into the sheets with him. Yes, like a good employee, the sign of a good mate is a well stacked list of credentials. Oh, and again, look at that, still sleeping around at 44. Bravo, Helen. Looks like you're sure winning your little game.
Now, some of you may be thinking, what about birth control?? Safe Sex?? Teenagers reading this?? Have no fear! There is a footnote...
* Note: Before engaging in sex, it's imperative that you decide what type of birth control you will use, and you should supplement that with condoms to protect against sexually transmitted diseases. Also, this article is not intended to advise virgins. Deciding when to have sex for the first time in your life involves much more than is discussed here.
So, for all you virgins out there, looking for advise in your already tumultuous time of life, forget everything you just read, flush it from your brain, and instead make an educated decision about whether you are truly ready. Right.... easy to do... Thank you AOL and match.com for bringing us this helpful and enlightening information.
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